Two famous Aussie pornstars dish on what we’re really doing wrong in the bedroom, and the easy tips to fix it.
Two of Australia’s most popular pornstars, Isabelle Deltore (40) and Dale Egan (31) have opened up to news.com.auabout the pitfalls of their profession and their top tips for getting down and dirty in the bedroom.
While their lifestyle might afford frequent travel opportunities and flexible work hours, they admit it can be hard to date in their profession due to the perceptions widely held about people engaged in sex work.
“While I think attitudes towards people working in the adult industry are getting better, there is still a bit of a double standard with how males and females doing this work are perceived,” explains Melbourne-based Deltore, who has worked in the industry for over 13 years. “The men are seen as studs and celebrated, and I don’t think women are seen in the same way.”
She adds, “It can be hard to find genuine partners, some are what I call ‘trophy hunters’ that just want to sleep with me because of what I do.”
For Dale, the biggest downside is also dating, with him saying that he finds it hard to find a woman who will accept his line of work.
So, we know what troubles them. But what mistakes are most people making in the bedroom?
Deltore says that from her experience, people seem to have a feeling of shame around their sexual behaviour, which can get in the way of them enjoying the experience.
“Things like having sex with the lights off, not communication that they like or don’t like something and being embarrassed to try new things,” she tells news.com.au. “My advice is to explore. Explore yourself, and your partner.”
She adds that women need to start embracing their sexuality. “Whether that means having many or few partners, or maybe having sex on the first date or waiting until the time is right,” she explains. “Women are sexual beings, enjoy every second of that.”
She does admit though, that it can be a difficult journey and it’s ok for it to take time.
“I’m still exploring my sexuality, even being hundreds of scenes deep into my career.”
Dale says that men can be a lot more interested in the intimacy side of sex, as well as the physical stuff. Plus, it doesn’t have to always look like it came off a porn website.
“Sex in my personal life is 1000 times different, most people don’t understand that. Doing it for work is planning the scenes, acting for the camera, opening up for angles, being louder than normal,” he says. “I crave the intimacy of personal life sex as much, if not even more.”
However, he agrees with Deltore that communication is often the biggest missing element in the bedroom.
“A very common mistake people make, is that they don’t ask the other person what they like,” he said. “There is no communication before having sex. Everyone likes something different.”
He doesn’t recommend just trying to bring what your previous partners enjoyed to the sexual table. “The way you are with one partner might not work with another,” he explains. “There is a common misconception that the other person ‘should just know’ how to do it well, and that’s not always the case.
“You need to talk with your partner before and that way you’ll both have the best experience.”